My oh my, is it ever a pissing mess in Vancouver at the moment. Apparently it’s Pineapple Express, which at first sounds OK if it means Seth Rogen will appear with a pipe full of gunja. But alas, I do believe the actual definition is rain, rain, rain. Which means there’s nothing much else to do this weekend but stay in and make sweet love to your partner. No love interest at the moment? No problem. Fellas, I’ve got a few tips if you’re out on the pull this weekend, looking to land a lady love. It’s quite simple, really. Make love like an Italian.
No, no, I don’t mean that you should rock up in an ’87 Camaro with a tight, plunging V-neck and piles of gold chains à la Mr. T. I mean taking a page from the way Italian men approach women.
I recently spent time in Rome and experienced the Italian approach firsthand. The way they look at women, with such intensity, like they want to devour each and every inch of you. The way they lock eyes from across the room can burn you to your soul, making it almost impossible to divert your reciprocative stare. When an Italian man sets his sights on a woman, he’ll do whatever it takes to win her over.
This approach is something that is rarely witnessed amid the Vancouver dating scene. It’s like a unicorn, but, um, more rare. So let’s try taking a step away from our posse perched in the corner and mingling a little bit, in the same manner of an Italian man. Here’s how:
Be fearless. You see a girl that interests you, but immediately you shut yourself down thinking she’s out of your league or will automatically reject you. Cast your doubts aside and approach her anyway. With a touch of swagger, if possible … in a non-douchey kind of way. Women are always impressed by men who take initiative. Even if the outcome isn’t the desired result, i.e. you snogging on the cab ride home, you’ll never know unless you try. If she blows you off, don’t fret, another bird will come along in a hot minute.
Be confident. Once you’re engaging in conversation, be yourself. Don’t be afraid to be bold, and tell your subject why you approached her in the first place. But be careful to balance this accordingly, as you don’t want to come across as cocky. Although sometimes, this seems to work too.
Be persistent. When I was single, trying to figure out all those complicated mixed singles was a complete mind fuck. A friend gave me a piece of advice that I never forgot: if a man wants to be with you, he’ll make it happen, no matter what the obstacle. So if a woman doesn’t respond at first approach, go out on a limb and catch her off-guard. Instead of sending a drink to her table, send her a dessert. Or, send her friend a drink and have your server attach a note that says, Hello, can you please tell your friend I think she’s lovely. Women love grand gestures.
Be passionate. Don’t shy away from a brazen PDA or a Hollywood kiss while you’re walking her home. Romance is not dead.
Do you think this kind of approach is effective? Have you crashed and burned by using any of the above tactics? Post a comment or tweet me @urbancowgirl
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